self love, you deserve that.

you may think happiness comes from someone or something.

that's not true. i've learned the hard ways that as many times as life knocks you down. you ARE enough. you will ALWAYS be enough.

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self love: regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).

”If you don't love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won't be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self.”

so you start talking to a boy and you fall head over heels in love, things couldn't be better. nothing can knock this feeling and i mean NOTHING!

and then here comes the blow, the blow in your stomach where you feel your heart drop in your chest. either it be he really just wasn't that into you after all, he found another girl that's "better" than you, or you may actually never know what the hell went wrong.but the good thing is, it doesn't even matter.

pull yourself together, girl

recover control of your emotions.

1. he wasn't all that great anyway.

2. put on some kevin gates or boosie and remember who you are.

3. take a long drive or go for a quiet walk.

4. you can cry, but make sure you never cry for the same reason.

5. write down 5 things you love about yourself.

6. you can either face it , or look the other way..

"Even if you don’t yet know clearly what direction you should take. That will become clear once you start walking. It's like warming up you need to do, before you start to run"

so what if he doesn't want you, someday someone out there will appreciate all of you for YOU. not just love you half-assed. trust me you don't want to be with someone like that anyway. i know at the time it feels like your soul is being crushed or your all off track. it will be that's human. but don't let it strike you out. there is so much better coming than what is gone. don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he ripped your heart in two. you've already gave him more than enough.

get whole again, find out what makes you happy.

hanging out with my friends always makes me feel whole again. they are who will love you no matter what. even if you make the same dumb mistakes over & over again. they support you. they will always be there for you. just imagine laughing so hard when you don't even want to smile again, your ribs and your cheek bones hurt from laughing so hard. that's the best therapy you can get.

if you don't have time for friends, or don't have good friends. then what do you like to do? do you have kids? nieces? or nephews? sometimes you just need to sit down and talk to a toddler to realize what life really is all about.

if you don't know try to think of when your doing something and don't realize that it's off your mind until you think about it again. what was you doing? watching a favorite tv show? playing with your dog? keep yourself busy.

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this i promise you will pass, can't say it wont hurt like hell but it does go away. you have to learn to love yourself again before anyone can ever love you. i know it's hard sometimes especially when you've been knocked back a few steps. why aren't i good enough? what does she have that i don't? .......who cares. you are enough and you'll never be too much for someone who can't get enough of you. I PROMISE! give you and your soul peace, you both deserve it. train yourself and your emotions or you will lose yourself every single time.

and p.s. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't go back to a toxic relationship just because you're lonely. learn to be by yourself and be OK with that, even if they have moved on to someone else. it won't never change.

you don't need someone to make YOU happy.

-Elise Gribbins-